Have you ever known someone that has trouble saying “no” when people ask them to do something? I have one. She is one of those beautiful people whose ability to give of herself is extraordinary. Unfortunately she seems to be a magnet for those that would be classified as “users.” You know the type, they love to ask favors but seldom give favors. They are always singing the “Me, Me, Me” aria, and never the “You, You, You” aria!
I know that much of her giving stems from the fact that she doesn’t want anyone to ever be mad at her, but it concerns me because she sometimes will do things to the detriment of her own health. I’ve tried to pep talk her, inspire her, and reason with her…to no avail. It’s like she’s addicted to saying “yes.”
I’ve jokingly told her that she needs to embrace the word “no” and stop thinking of it as a negative, but the only thing my exhortation has managed to do is cause her to say “no” to me when I’m trying to bless her. Talk about a backfire!
Maybe she needs to put a sign on her door, “If you’re here to ask a favor of me and have asked something of me anytime within the last week, please turn around and walk away. My open door policy and reliable “yes” answer has now been replaced with a one “yes” per week policy. Hope you still like me.”
Does anyone have any ideas on how to turn this type of behavior around? I’d love to help my friend!